Thursday, 8 July 2010


Conversation about the wedding that happened around February time

“friend”: Are you excited yet?

Me: No

“friend”: why not? When are you going to get excited?

Me: What is there to get excited about? I’m excited to be married – is that not enough?

“friend”: No - you should be exciting, planning a wedding is exciting, weddings are exciting, my wedding was excited, I WAS excited about planning my wedding, why are you not EXCITED, it is EXCITING, there must be something wrong with you if you aren’t EXCITED.


Thoughts recently……………….

The invitations are out, the wedding notices are filed and my dress is being altered, the favours are made and we know in our heads, ok I know in my head, what is happening with the other details. Since the invitations went out everything has felt easier, more calm, there hasn't been the rush. I'm not deluding myself I'm well aware that there needs to be more rushing! But technically the wedding can happen without any of the other details. The rest of the stuff is just stuff and if I don’t want to do it I don’t have to. Ok so technically I didn’t have to DO any of it but the unspoken pressure was there. And I’m going to do the other stuff because I want to.

Now I’m feeling a whole heap of excitement, I can’t wait to get married, I can’t wait for our families to come together, I can’t wait for the evening when all our friends are dancing their behinds off. I can’t wait to see all the babies all dressed up and hearing them chatter and gurgle their nonsense. I can’t wait to be announced as husband and wife. I can’t wait to snuggle into my husband's chest at the end of the night and fall asleep knowing that forever looks like an amazing place to go together.

I’ve always been excited about being married but finally I’m excited about the wedding*.

Which is about bloody time because we only have two and a bit weeks to go!

*It does probably make me weird that I haven't found the process excited.
I'm slightly perplexed by the disappointed look I'm getting from people when they ask if I'm all organised or stressed out. Yes I'm organised and no I'm not stressed out and why is that disappointing for you? Really you'd prefer me to be tearing my hair out - that seems ungracious.


  1. Two and a half weeks?!? Now that is exciting.

    Totally understand the lack of zeal until the point where it feels like it is actually happening!

  2. Yay so glad you are excited about it all now!!!

    Im so excited for you too; cant wait to see pics!

    People always assume the brides get stressed out; i had a few moments but not too many, mainly the day before when someone told me to buy wellies!

  3. Also meant to add that I really started to get super excited at my hen do; which was 3 weeks before as by then most things were done or planned; and thats when it totally hit me, when I had my girls around me getting excited about it too!

  4. you are soooo close! those people are ungracious.

  5. Ooooh! So soon!

    "Forever looks like an amazing place to go together"- love that :)

  6. I know just what you mean about "supposed to be excited." For the past 2 months people have been saying "ooh, almost time for your trip to England (to visit my fiance) how exciting!" And I'd nod. And since I've been on vacation for the past 3 weeks I've thought "okay, got to get ready for my trip." But I haven't really been excited. I mean, of course I want to visit him, but how exhausting would it be to be excited for 2 months straight?!

    Now that there's 48 hours to go though, NOW I'm getting there ;)


    I'm glad to know this will happen, I'm still at the ugh phase at the moment, but it will pass, I'm sure.

    so excited for you!

  8. very exciting! I love that you were excited to be married then excited about the wedding. You definitely have your priorities straight since the marriage is the one that lasts :)

  9. Oh it's getting so close! So glad you're getting excited. The wedding is exciting, but you're right - being married is the really exciting bit.

  10. I am SO late, hope you're still excited!

    Are you being asked every 2 minutes if you're nervous as well?

  11. Aw honey. With this attitude your day will be FAB.


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